A divorce can be a devastating event for children, no matter how old they are. Even in adult children, the thought of seeing their mother and father split up can be heartbreaking and confusing; however, there are many things parents can do to ease the pain and make the transition less difficult.
It helps if the parents keep the arguing to a minimum around the children. Even if you have hostile feelings toward each other, getting along with each other will go a long way in helping your children feel loved. Both parents should make sure that the children still play an important role in their lives after the divorce. It helps to keep regular contact. When parents distance themselves, they make the children feel unloved and they may feel as if they are to blame for the divorce.
It is also important to keep children out of the middle. Do not use them as messengers between you and your ex. If you want to know information about your ex-spouse, do not have your children spy on them or have them disclose any information. In addition, if you have any issues with your ex-spouse, address them with your lawyer, not your children. Doing so will make the divorce even more stressful for them and they may act out in uncharacteristic ways.
If you are considering a divorce that involves children, contact the law offices of Warren & Migliaccio, L.L.P. They are Texas attorneys specializing in family law. Contact them today at (888) 584-9614.